Posted On: September 30, 2009 at 3:45 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
When introducing orgasm denial to your novice Domme, you need to impress upon her how much happiness you get from being denied. That will help her overcome her upbringing and socialization that a man only achieves satisfaction if he cums. Be very up front with her in how much pleasure you get from the ache of denial.
Every time you have an orgasm denial play time with her, give her positive affirmations when she does what is “Domme-like.” Accentuate her positives. Remember that this is all foreign to her, so don’t be too nitpicky and overbearing. It’s not exacty ideal to “lord” it over her on how to do things when she’s the one who is supposed to be in control – lol!
Tell her why you like orgasm denial. Many men say things such as loving the chase and the courtship phase of a relationship. Certainly being denied their orgasm is part of that. Proving themselves and how much self control they have is another part of orgasm denial. Placing themselves under the control of the woman they love is another. Whatever the reason you’re into orgasm denial, let your novice Domme know
Communication is always the key. Just because orgasm denial may seem more benign than other bdsm activities, it’s not. The bravery that an orgasm denied fan must endure is every bit as impressive as a painslut’s.
Posted On: September 28, 2009 at 3:45 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
For many men who want to introduce their significant others to the FemDomme lifestyle, a good place to start is orgasm denial. That’s because many women get immediately turned off at the thought of BDSM; they conjur up images of whips and chains. While that may be the case for some activities for D/s couples and playmates, it doesn’t have to be the norm.
At any rate, I feel orgasm denial is something to introduce to a novice Domme in the making. Unfortunately, many a woman feels that she’s not satisfying her mate if he doesn’t cum, so it might take awhile for her to realize that she really should deny him. After all, that’s what orgasm denial is all about – lol!
I remember the first time I did orgasm denial. It was during orgasm denial phone sex, and after doing a lot of cockteasing, the man was begging me for permission to release. He sounded so sincere, and he really sounded like he was about ready to cry. So I gave in. Wrong move! The disappointment in his voice was quite evident. He did cum, but boy, was he ever disappointed. He never called again. Gee…I wonder why – lol!
True, orgasm denial play doesn’t mean never cumming, but for many orgasm denied fans who want to have a play session, they don’t want to cum during that time. Eventually, but not then. At that particular time, they want the cock teasing and the slow build up in their balls. They want that familiar blue balled, heavy ache of being orgasm denied.
Posted On: August 29, 2009 at 6:42 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
Putting my submissives through orgasm denial is such a rush! Nothing controls a submissive more thoroughly than orgasm denial.
Sometimes an orgasm denied submissive can get pretty edgy and desperate. Their emotions are all over the place, having to deny themselves for their dominant. During those times, I try to be around to help them through those intensely tough spots where they don’t think they can hold out any longer. Some can’t, and it’s a wise dominant who knows when those times are and to let them cum – but after a particularly intense cock tease. Some can hold out longer; they just don’t know it yet. That’s when a dominant has to see that and to guide the orgasm denied submissive through that psychologically and physically tough spot.
So, you see, orgasm denial can be such a rush for a dominant. Not only is she controlling a submissive’s orgasms, she’s also controlling his emotional and psychological states. Coolio!
Posted On: July 10, 2009 at 3:47 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
So do you like orgasm denial? Do you crave being denied an orgasm by a firm Dominatrix? Or should I call her a Masturbatrix? That divine Domme that tells you how to stroke and then, when you’re about ready to cum, she tells you “Hands off!” LOL! I love that moment – that moment when my orgasm denied sub thinks I’m going to let him cum, and then I don’t. LOL!
The longest an orgasm denial sub of mine has gone without cumming has been four months! I must say, that’s pretty damned impressive! But even if you’re new to orgasm denial and can’t hold off that long, that’s fine. As long as you stretch and hold out as long as you can, then that’s great! I’m an understanding Masturbatrix and know that some men just can’t hold off that long; their limit might be four days, not four weeks. What joy I get is in the control I have over my orgasm denial strokers, not necessarily the length of time.
Holding you by the balls,
Posted On: June 24, 2009 at 5:43 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
One of my friends is getting in touch with her inner dominatrix. I always knew she had it in her – lol! She wants to start out slowly with her husband, so I suggested orgasm denial. Orgasm denial is very much a sensual domination play, although it can go quite hardcore. But…we’re dealing with sensual domination orgasm denial here, so I gave her a few tips.
One of the most delightful things about orgasm denial is to tie up your partner so that s/he cannot touch their genitals. Then you stimulate them til they’re just about ready to cum. (Obviously they have to be on the honor system and let you know when they’re about to orgasm). This is the time when you can really tease and torment them by making them beg for your permission to cum! I LOVE that! It’s so sexy seeing someone so vulnerable and at your mercy asking for pleasure – pleasure that they can normally take themselves. Will you give it, or won’t you? It’s entirely up to you!