Posted On: September 30, 2009 at 3:45 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
When introducing orgasm denial to your novice Domme, you need to impress upon her how much happiness you get from being denied. That will help her overcome her upbringing and socialization that a man only achieves satisfaction if he cums. Be very up front with her in how much pleasure you get from the ache of denial.
Every time you have an orgasm denial play time with her, give her positive affirmations when she does what is “Domme-like.” Accentuate her positives. Remember that this is all foreign to her, so don’t be too nitpicky and overbearing. It’s not exacty ideal to “lord” it over her on how to do things when she’s the one who is supposed to be in control – lol!
Tell her why you like orgasm denial. Many men say things such as loving the chase and the courtship phase of a relationship. Certainly being denied their orgasm is part of that. Proving themselves and how much self control they have is another part of orgasm denial. Placing themselves under the control of the woman they love is another. Whatever the reason you’re into orgasm denial, let your novice Domme know
Communication is always the key. Just because orgasm denial may seem more benign than other bdsm activities, it’s not. The bravery that an orgasm denied fan must endure is every bit as impressive as a painslut’s.
Posted On: September 28, 2009 at 3:45 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
For many men who want to introduce their significant others to the FemDomme lifestyle, a good place to start is orgasm denial. That’s because many women get immediately turned off at the thought of BDSM; they conjur up images of whips and chains. While that may be the case for some activities for D/s couples and playmates, it doesn’t have to be the norm.
At any rate, I feel orgasm denial is something to introduce to a novice Domme in the making. Unfortunately, many a woman feels that she’s not satisfying her mate if he doesn’t cum, so it might take awhile for her to realize that she really should deny him. After all, that’s what orgasm denial is all about – lol!
I remember the first time I did orgasm denial. It was during orgasm denial phone sex, and after doing a lot of cockteasing, the man was begging me for permission to release. He sounded so sincere, and he really sounded like he was about ready to cry. So I gave in. Wrong move! The disappointment in his voice was quite evident. He did cum, but boy, was he ever disappointed. He never called again. Gee…I wonder why – lol!
True, orgasm denial play doesn’t mean never cumming, but for many orgasm denied fans who want to have a play session, they don’t want to cum during that time. Eventually, but not then. At that particular time, they want the cock teasing and the slow build up in their balls. They want that familiar blue balled, heavy ache of being orgasm denied.
Posted On: September 20, 2009 at 6:58 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
So what’s in a setting? A setting plays an important part of your bdsm play. That’s why many people love playing in a bdsm dungeon. Bdsm dungeons can range from very simple to very elaborate. Some of the more established professional dominatrixes have multiple rooms in their bdsm dungeons. These can be specialized rooms devoted to sissies, adult babies, human pet play, and just a plain ol’ dungeon.
As you can imagine, a sissy room would be all frilly and girlie, with plenty of clothes and shoes to try on, as well as perhaps a vanity and a full length mirror. A room devoted to adult babies would look exactly like a nursery, only with adult sized baby furniture. At the bdsm dungeons I’ve been to, the dungeon incorporates the human pet play by having a big cage off to the side.
So what kind of bdsm dungeons have you been to? What do they look like? What kinds of things do you like about it? And what scares you about it? *wink*
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Posted On: September 13, 2009 at 3:53 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
I got to be bitch for the day by spending a large amount of time face slapping and hair pulling on a submissive. You see, a new submissive play toy of mine loves the humiliation and the pain of that both face slapping and hair pulling gives to him. It’s part of his desire to be dehumanized, although he’s not into human pet play. Perhaps “dehumanized” isn’t the right word, although that’s how he labels it. I see dehumanization as more of being treated as a human pet or being treated as furniture. I see face slapping and hair pulling more as being thought of as a slave – like property, but I guess that is dehumanization after all.
At any rate, I tied him to a chair and spent a lovely time face slapping him. His cheeks were bright pink, and then they started turning red. It was a hell of a lot of fun face slapping him and backhanding him. Back and forth I went with both hands. I was getting pretty adept at it. I hadn’t gotten that much work out with that much face slapping in awhile. I have to say my hands got tired though. That’s when it’s a good idea for a dominant to have another activity planned for the sub. In this case, it was hair pulling.
Obviously if a sub has close cropped hair, you can’t really do any hair pulling. A lot of men have very short hair, but at least this sub didn’t. He had a full head of hair, and it was rather on the longish side. Not as long as being able to have a pony tail, but it was long enough. I grabbed hand fulls of his hair and pulled and yanked to my heart’s content. His little yelps were funny to hear, and I couldn’t help laughing.
After awhile, I went back to the face slapping, then when my hands tired, I did some more hair pulling. To add a little variety, I put some of his hair into rubber bands, and pulled on them that way. That was fun! Then I started pulling the little hairs on the back of his head. Hehe! Wickedly fun. And what was even more wickedly fun was taking a tweezers and pulling out several of those hairs – one by one. Talk about hair pulling with a twist. LOL!
Posted On: September 11, 2009 at 3:44 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
I recently made a sub’s lifelong dream come true: treating him to human pet play. I have a cage in my dungeon that I put willing submissives into. I thoroughly enjoy treating them like human pets, right down to the feeding out of a doggie dish and taking them out to pee in the backyard.
This sub got the whole royal treatment of human pet play. He wanted to spend an entire weekend as a human pet, and I was definitely game for that. The subs who have come to me for human pet play have only had a couple hours, at the most, to devote to it.
I immediately had him strip and then I put a collar on him. After all, that’s what doggies wear! For his comfort, I put a large pillow in the cage for him to sit and lay on. He also had doggie bowls full of water and leftover food. The leftover food consisted of really icky stuff – like meat gristle, cold scrambled eggs, and other kinds of leftover food that is much better warmed up. I watched him woof (pardon the pun) the food down, and then I took him out for a walk in my backyard. It was then that I told him part of human pet play consisted of him lifting his leg to whiz. Haha! It was funny him trying to piss without it kind of ending up drizzling down his leg. At least he had plenty of practice to get the dog peeing right by the end of the weekend – lol!
If you haven’t tried human pet play, I urge you to consider it. It’s such a rush for a dominant – and so funny, too. It’s also an extremely submissive thing for a sub to do – to be thought of as a human pet and not as a human for a certain amount of time.
Posted On: September 9, 2009 at 3:36 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
I remember being very young and hearing Nancy Sinatra sing:
“These boots are made for walking
And that’s just what they’ll do
One of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you….”
The gist of the song isn’t about bdsm and trampling, but I always delighted in the chorus.
Shortly after starting my bdsm journey, I met up with someone who was in to trampling. What little I had read about it sounded so dangerous. Yikes! Stiletto heels – with a Domme’s full weight on them – piercing down into a sub’s flesh? I’m a big sadist, but I don’t want to irreparably damange my toys!
I told him my reservations about trampling, and he described some of the safety protocol that goes into bdsm trampling. Ah…light bulb went off in my head, and I immediately wanted to try trampling!
We went to a shoe store to buy the right kind of boots and then we went back to my place to break them in, so to speak. It was pretty cool, and I enjoyed my first time trampling. All the while he was prone and I was carefully walking over him, I was singing Nancy Sinatra’s chorus and giggling.
Posted On: September 7, 2009 at 3:35 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
I recently enjoyed a lazy afternoon with a sub who enjoys foot worship. So, of course, I couldn’t pass an opportunity up like that. It’s not often he has some free time.
He spent most of the afternoon down at my feet – rubbing and massaging them, kissing them, licking them, and sucking on my toes. Foot worship is a wonderful thing for a Domme/Dom. To me, it’s so relaxing, yet erotic and a turn on at the same time. It’s also a time for a sub to show how worshipful he or she is – willing to “make love” to a foot!
At other times, foot worship can be humiliating. There’s nothing like smearing icky stuff all over a sub’s face with feet – lol! Or, if a domnant has dirty feet, it’s such a rush to see a sub humiliate him or herself by cleaning all that dirt or mud off the feet. (At least the sub better hope that’s dirt or mud – lol)!
Foot worship can also entail some edgier bdsm elements, like a dominant using his or her feet to slap a submissive’s face, or using the feet to smother the sub.
Fun times foot worship is!
Posted On: September 4, 2009 at 3:40 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
I feel so powerful when I tell my submissive: “Gag on me!” He is kneeling before me and my big strapon cock. Nothing puts a submissive in his or her place faster than forced cocksucking! You can see it in a submissive’s eyes – the pleading, the humiliation, the vulnerability, and slowly…the lust.
Forced cocksucking. If you haven’t done it to a submissive, I encourage you to try it. It’s fun! If you’re a submissive…keep on sucking!
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Posted On: September 2, 2009 at 3:39 pm By: Countess Comments: (zero)
CBT (cock and ball torture) is a marvelous thing for a dominant to do to a willing submissive. At first, when I heard about cbt, I was aghast. I thought there was no way I could ever do such a thing, even if I had a willing partner. The thought of it made me cringe and squeeze my legs together as if I had a cock and balls – lol.
Then, as I got more into the bdsm world and got exposed to more men who enjoyed cbt, I started to slowly change my mind. Now, as I mentioned above, I find cbt to be a marvelous thing to administer to a painslut. It’s so beautiful to see a man grit through the pain and try to take more. It’s an almost spiritual exercise for them and an honor for me to witness and be a part of.
Mind you, cbt isn’t only spiritual – lol! There’s a hell of a lot of sexual in there, too! Cbt between a dominant and submissive who know each other well – or at least have played with each other a few times – is like a tango, with each action having a reaction until that splendid climax.